A study shows that only 25% of women have orgasms consistently when they have sex

According to an analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years by Elisabeth Lloyd in her book The Case of the Female Orgasm, 50% of women have orgasms sometimes, 20% seldom do, and 5% never have orgasms.

A tight vagina doesn’t feel the pleasure felt during sex; it’s like a fighter who is making his abdominal muscles tight so he can absorb the impact of a punch

The tighter the yoni is (and the harder the penis is), the less sensitivity there is. As the years go on, and she has more and more procreative-style sex, her yoni naturally becomes de-sensitized – like armour – since she is always having to be tight for the penis to be ramming in and out. She is literally protecting herself with every thrust. There are times when this is enjoyable. But an armour is created nonetheless.

But when she is allowed to be relaxed and have connected intercourse, her walls are allowed to come alive. When the penis enters and “plugs in” without continually “unplugging,” she is able to relax completely and truly feel what is going on. With every wave of pleasure that her yoni experiences, the delicate nerve-endings in her vaginal walls send waves of pleasure throughout her whole body. She will feel this orgasmic flow all the way to her fingertips and the top of her head.

It could also be that her heart is not in it and needs more love

Stimulating the positive pole can be done through caressing the breasts in a way that is enjoyable to her. This can be challenging since many women’s breasts and nipples have become de-sensitized through breast-feeding and rough handling. Many women say that they feel nothing in their breasts. But with gentle, conscious touch and healing, this wonderful sensitivity can be brought back.

But love is the greatest stimulator!

It is through true connection and open-hearted love that her positive pole is the most stimulated. It is through showing your love by doing kind things for her, connecting intimately with her and simply loving her completely that will fill her heart the most. When a woman feels loved, her yoni will naturally open and she will long to merge with you. But if the love comes with strings attached, she will stay protected and closed.

Her partner is all about having sex and not making love

Women had roles in the home and in the marital relationship. They weren’t supposed to say no to sex. They were married. It was their obligation.It was only the sexual revolution of the 60s that truly made it widespread that women could enjoy sex and have orgasms. For centuries before that, it wasn’t even believed that it was possible (let alone important). So, it certainly wasn’t focused on.

But now we are learning what it means to truly make love!

Many women would love to try making love with their partner without the need to ejaculate. They don’t enjoy sex any more. They have had too much unwanted sex already. Their bodies have shut down. But the idea of just being loving – of gentle touch for simple pleasure – of being close – of feeling loved… Yes, they want this very much.